Nourishment VitalityRelationships & Conscious Communication play an important role in improving our relationships.
Relationships & conscious communication is our ability to clearly and compassionately communicate with others as well as with ourselves. Human beings are social beings, and we are usually interacting with other people every day in our lives. Often, our mood can be influenced a great deal by how our interactions with other people turn out. This is especially true of those whom we care about including our close friendships, our social & romantic relationships, our work, or study colleagues, and even in our career or business partnerships.
Here is what we need to understand. Each personality we deal with is unique and presents its own challenges. Managing this myriad of relationships requires us to consciously observe the process and the impact of our interactions with others. In doing so, we continue to gain knowledge, understanding, and experiences in developing relationships in a positive way.
As an experienced practitioner dealing with many relationships all over the world, I know that relationships can present themselves as a difficult challenge at times. I have realized that in order to have reasonable management skills in relationships, we need to be assertive and honest in sharing our thoughts, feelings, and concerns. However, this needs to be communicated in a way that does not provoke the other party. Instead, it should be respectful and encourages both parties to listen to each other.
One of the most successful strategies from my experiences for making relationships less stressful and more enjoyable is to show a little patience.
Patience has been defined as “what we lack for the driver in front of us and demand from the driver behind us.” In truth, patience is nothing more than time.
Think of a time when someone was not patient with you when you needed them to be. How did you feel? Think of how deeply you might have been hurt. The next time you find yourself losing patience with another, take a moment to remind yourself of how you felt when someone had no patience with you. We may need to pause or take a time-out before we say something that we may regret. A little patience can often resolve a conflict that a loss of patience will only escalate.
One of the simplest ways to build stronger relationships and bring more happiness into our lives is by becoming a little more patient. Showing someone patience is really giving to another that which we wish to receive, while a lack of patience is nothing more than a reflection of ourselves. I have observed time and time again that the lack of patience leads to ineffective communication in our relationships.
So how can we improve relationships & conscious communication effectively in all our relationships?
Let’s explore a very interesting communication technique using “I” messages and statements.
In “I” messages, statements are made about ourselves, how we feel, and our concerns. They also include what actions of the other party have led to the concerns.
“You” messages focus on the other person and may lead the other party to become defensive unless the “You” message is a positive statement of the other person.
In this example, a husband or wife is waiting for the return of the spouse. When the spouse returns, he or she might be greeted by this: “You are always coming home late! Why can’t you come back earlier?” This “You” message leads to the spouse feeling blamed and attacked and the ensuing communication would likely not be an amicable one.
In another example, flatmates may engage in the very common conversation of “You always leave the lounge area in a state of chaos. Why do “You” never tidy up after yourself or your guests?
In a conflicting situation, “You” message focuses on attacking the other person. As a result, the primary issues are pushed aside.
In contrast, in this same scenario, an “I” message would look like this.”I feel rather lonely while waiting for you to come home. I’m concerned that you are often home late, and I get rather frustrated wondering when you’re going to be home.”
Or, I love socializing with your crowd of friends. I would really appreciate your participation in re-setting the apartment once they leave. In this statement, therefore, the speaker shares his or her feelings and concerns. The clear communication of the concern is a good starting point for both parties to work out what can be done about it.
“I” messages are effective because the focus is on the issue or concern and not on the other person. The sharing of the speaker’s feelings can also lead to more trust in the relationship. It shows the speaker is willing to look within himself or herself and take responsibility for his or her feelings.
In fact, in my opinion, and in most general interactions, the use of “I” messages is always superior to “You” messages. It is a more respectful way of communicating. So, even when expressing positive feelings, a “You” message: “You look good in this dress”, could be enhanced by “I” messages: “I’m so happy to see you. I remember all the fun we used to have. You look good.”
Finally, the use of messages may not come naturally to some people initially.
However, with practice, you will be surprised at how you will begin to enjoy the benefits of this communication approach. This will be especially evident when you begin to experience the result of better-quality interactions and more harmonious relationships.
So, remember to take the time to smile instead of frown, the time to wink instead of a snarl. How much time does it really take to give someone a small nod or a pat on the back? We never stop to think about how a little of our time can make such a big difference in how we make another feel.
The lack of patience and clear communication is the key to so much unhappiness and grief in this world. All it requires is a little time and technique on our part.
At Nourishment Vitality, we have had amazing success in creating & implementing these important channels of relationships and conscious communication within many myriads of relationships.
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